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Author Topic: Twenty Alternatives to Punishment  (Read 21990 times) Digg del.icio.us
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« Reply #15 on: March 17, 2010, 09:00:16 AM »

Parent class for babies should be this type of training instead of how to diaper or burp those things are easy to figure out. Disciplining a child is very important art.

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« Reply #16 on: May 13, 2010, 10:01:57 PM »

I would like to recommend two books that have really helped me put these concepts into practice.   Both of these books are more practical than theoretical so they are loaded with lots of real life scenarios.  If anyone else knows of similar books I would love to hear about them. 

Playful Parenting by Larry Cohen really helped me see the possibilities of the playful side of discipline.  The methods helps really helps with power struggles, connecting with kids (I love you rituals) and allowing children to process difficult emotions (bullying.)    The examples in the book are geared more toward the 3-12 year old range.  But with some creativity younger and older kids could be included, however teens may be more likely to get embarrassed by such silliness. 

Becoming the Parent You Want to Be by Laura Davis and Janis Keyser helped me develop a communication style that respects children’s feelings and intelligence while helping me see the situation from their perspective.  They also help nurture a child’s genuine empathy and consideration for others.  The book is a reference guide to the first 5 years.  If you decide to read it I would suggest reading parts 2 & 4 plus chapters 23 & 24.   I have been using their socialization techniques with my twins for about a year now.  Now they are 2.5 I can really see progress.  My DD, who is a talker, shows that she is already thinking about other people’s feelings.  The other day she took a toy from her brother and he cried.  She said “he’s crying, he looks sad.  Do you want the toy?”  Then she gave it back to him without my saying a word to her.  Here are some links some articles written by the same authors to give an idea of their methods.   They also have a lot of other interesting articles on their website. 
http://www.becomingtheparent.com/subsections1/question6.html

http://parenting.ivillage.com/tp/tpbehavior/0,,71g0,00.html


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« Reply #17 on: June 05, 2010, 06:42:49 AM »

what do you mean by Don't let the baby be unhappy.
that seem like a recipe for disaster
people, kids and babies all have alot of different emotions none of which are wrong
i want my kids to know that it's ok to feel unhappy sometimes, it ok to cry
it all part of being human   

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« Reply #18 on: June 05, 2010, 04:57:15 PM »

Some great suggestions! Thanks for this topic.

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« Reply #19 on: June 05, 2010, 05:29:50 PM »

Thank you for the great info. I m going to print it out and stick it on a wall smile
welldone big grin

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« Reply #20 on: June 05, 2010, 05:50:23 PM »



[/quote] i have read a book title: HOW TO TALK SO KIDS CAN LEARN AT HOME AND IN SCHOOL by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish.   I like this book very much  yes   other than just theory part, the book shown the real life story with comic pictures, so it will be more easy to understand... I practiced some of the ways, n it works.   Try to read it.... yes

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« Reply #21 on: June 05, 2010, 06:47:21 PM »

i love those authors
the book How To Talk So Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk is great
like you said so much real life help
the comics and activity help you practice your new found skills as well
i also like Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too
all their books are respectful of kids and their needs while at the same time respectful and understanding of parents
it's a nice balance
way ahead of it's time

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« Reply #22 on: June 07, 2010, 04:44:50 AM »

Thanks - there was some great info there.  I went to a conference recently & one of the speakers talked about disciplining children.  The only concrete suggestion she gave was to hug your children.  Hugging is good, but she gave no other suggestions & was even against common techniques like counting to 3 or giving time outs.   rolleyes Again, hugging is a wonderful tool, but I think parents need more ways than that to disipline & teach our children. Just thought I'd share!

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« Reply #23 on: June 07, 2010, 03:18:05 PM »

thanks for all the nice tips and suggestions.
it'll come in handy.

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« Reply #24 on: August 14, 2019, 11:23:09 AM »

I've been using the 1-2-3 magic method with our third son. He's the naughtiest from the three and we decided to try it. My wife was against that at the beginning, she wasn't sure we would cope with it so easily. But there are no easy ways. That's true. Offering an alternative to punishment is the wisest thing to do for every parent.

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